More Human not less
If you’re anything like me, you may have spent some time and energy attempting to minimize the qualities of being human— e.g.
- playing victim
Just to name a few…
I have found the practices of yoga and meditation tantamount in creating space to actually begin to witness these thoughts and emotions from a place of the witness, allowing me to respond instead of react.
Case in point: I’m on my mat and we have a substitute teacher for my FAVORITE teacher, whom I have not seen most of the summer. I tell myself to let go any disappointment and remain open to possibility.
I don’t actually feel that great this morning- tired, distracted by having had nightmares, and female issues. I don’t push myself too hard physically and as the teacher advises “take what I need”; which is lots of time in child’s pose.
I notice my desire to have her nurture me. I notice my wishing she would run her hand down my spine, making a connection and honoring my choice. I notice disappointment. I breathe and let out a big, loud exhale.
I see the other women: fitter, stronger, thinner. I notice my initial comparison and decide to let that go too. Inhaling I choose space, exhaling I choose emptiness.
We are about to enter fish pose and I go to grab for my block. The teacher unwittingly grabs it before I can and places it under her spine to demonstrate. I notice my upset. I grab the other block near the top of the mat and I CHOOSE to breathe into the feeling of disconnection and judgment. I lie back, open my heart and surrender into the earth.
I tell myself to keep using my tools: pressing into earth, relying on breath, and engaging my core (the VERY CENTER of me).
If we can notice we have given our peace away, it is much easier to draw it back to us. It’s living in the space of being off-center and not recognizing our own power over the situation which leads to a downward spiral toward moodiness, anxiety, over-eating, or depression.
What started out as me not feeling optimally could have spiraled into me having a bad day and beginning a story in my head of victimhood, woe is me. Eventually, I would probably take this out on my unsuspecting husband.
In savasana or final rest I fully embraced nurturing MYSELF, no one else needs to do this for me. I fully leaned into being human and having thoughts and emotions that in the past may have led me to judge myself but now I see are not the real me, they stem from a place of disconnection to my true self. My Highest self desires peace and wholeness and that can only be embodied when I can allow plenty of space for every human emotion. I don't dare ever again trap my wild, flourishing & tender self in a cage of disparaging thoughts. I am F R E E !!!!